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An act of giving up something valued for the sake of something else regarded as more important or worthy.


Being in Gods favor. showing that same grace towards your love one.


A feeling of intense enthusiasm towards or compelling desire for someone or something.


The quality of being dedicated or committed to a task or purpose. Being dedicated to the relationships and all it entails.



Can you see yourself getting married one day? Or maybe you’ve considered a forever relationship – or already in one? Then Jump into the Trenches with the Toulons!


Jonathan also goes by Touly, Toulon or JT is a recovering serial dating F’Boy turned successful IT BOSS, husband and father. The social butterfly of the duo, Touly loves to have a good time, travel and be in the company of friends and family. Also a member of the Mu Psi chapter of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc and graduate of the illustrious North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University where he obtained a degree in Computer and Information Technology.


Ralphiel also goes by Ralph, is the aggressive quick witted, smart mouth, silly around the clock geechee gyal turned wife and mother of doing the MOST! Also known as Extra to the mediocre community, #Shade. The super analytical mompreneur can handle anything that comes her way except for pork & bullsh*t. She loves true crime podcast and documentaries, bravo reality tv shows, crafts, and attending YouTube University.



"This couple has a gem in their hands with this podcast. Their experiences and views on life and love will have you coming back every week. I enjoy the fact that they attack each subject from different angles and don't always agree. I am proud to say that I'm in the trenches!"

- Einstain603

"I am really enjoying this podcast. As someone who is single and dating with intention, I appreciate their candor about their origin story and what marriage and parenthood has been like thus far. Keep up the good work!!!"

- Erin2KM

"Loooove this!!! So real! Real advise from real people with real problems. Love how unconventional your relationship was from start and how it's matured! Thank you for sharing your stories with us! keep it up!"

- Lagrack

"This podcast is funny, informative, and yet gives you so much hope for those who are both married and single. Great job!!"

- RosieMConnor

"Listen to the podcast. This one is actually good for all married men. Please listen!! It's actually a good podcast for non-married men as well because it will prepare you."

- ddeloatch21

"For the longest I felt my situation was unique, but once I started listening to your podcast I realized that I'm not. Thank you for sharing your experience to the world. I needed this more than you know to help me with my transition."

- Doughboy41

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